Sense Haven: A Site Dedicated to Misophonia
  • Home
  • Triggers
  • Resources
    • General Information
    • Scientific Research
    • Non-Scientific Articles
    • Video and Audio Clips
    • Articles Focused on School-Aged Children
    • Other Misophonia Websites/Blogs
  • Coping Tools
  • Support Venues
  • Blog
  • Past Polls
  • Contact

The "Butterfly's Whisper" Blog

Welcome to my blog. I hope by sharing my own misophonia experiences, others who are frustrated with misophonia sensitivities will discover that they're not alone. I also hope that people who may not have misophonia will gain some insight about what it's like to have this condition.

Please feel free to post any comments or use the "Contact Us" page if you have any questions/comments you don't want to post online.

Contact ME

Sometimes super-hearing comes in handy

11/12/2013

0 Comments

 
Before I write about what I originally planned to post, I have to tell you something funny that just happened to me at the office...

I'm here working late to make up for being out of the office yesterday and I kept hearing a tapping sound coming from the other side of my partition. Very few people are still here but I walked over to see if someone was sitting in our reception waiting area drumming his fingers out of boredom. I took a quick glance and not seeing anyone in the darkness (the area was just lit by the glow from the street lights outside the storefront windows), I went back to my desk. I figured it must be some natural creaking in the mechanical system. After a while, the quick, repeated tapping sound became extremely annoying so I went back to look again and saw that there was indeed water dripping from above my coworker's area. I assumed that it was a sprinkler pipe leaking, since all the MEP (mechanical, electrical, and plumbing) systems are exposed; so, I went to the head of our engineering department, figuring he'd want to know. When we both went back to take a closer look, I realized that the water was coming from ABOVE the sprinkler pipes, in between the cracks of the wooden slats of the exposed ceiling.
Picture
We went upstairs to see where it might be coming from when lo and behold, we  discovered that someone overwatered the plant in that conference area and the  plastic tray must have had a hole in it. The water was dribbling down the wooden  block on which the plant rested and puddled on the floor where it then seeped  through the cracks down to the mezzanine level. What's even funnier is that  today our office revealed our "secret identities" for our client holiday  party (the theme for which is superheroes).  Somehow they made me "Madame  Vamp." Given this latest incident, I think my character should have had  something to do with having super-hearing or super-senses... LOL!  (Don't ask me how our marketing department came up with my special abilities or who my arch enemy is... I just posed for the picture!)

Putting my super-hearing aside, the reason why I haven't posted in a couple of days is because I decided to surprise my family back in NY by coming home this past weekend. I decided this year that I didn't want to go home for Thanksgiving, for two huge reasons: 1) Traveling home from the Midwest is a pain in the neck even during non-peak travel periods (let alone traveling during Thanksgiving week which is absolute hell), and 2) I dread coming home for the holidays because I'm always uncomfortable during Thanksgiving family gatherings. Ever since I learned I had misophonia last year, I now know why I've been so miserable. Of course, eating triggers are at their highest during Thanksgiving feasts, but there's also the fact that I hate being smushed in the middle of the table with adjacent chairs knocking into mine, my brother-in-law and nephew constantly whistle around the house (and since it's their house, I don't feel comfortable asking them to stop), the sound of clinking

silverware on chinaware is never-ending, and since I don't have any elbow room at the table, the tactile sensation of the legs and arms of people sitting next to me rubbing against my skin is unbearable. It's always an intense, overwhelming, trigger-laden experience, and something which I just didn't want to go through again this year.

I knew my family wouldn't be happy about my decision, and it was very difficult to tell my folks and sister last week. I decided at the last minute to go home this weekend since my sister had surgery yesterday, my uncle had surgery about a week ago, and my aunt's special birthday is coming up this Thursday. Yes, I did surprise them... It took a few seconds for my aunt to register that it was me standing at the door when I rang her bell but when I knocked at my sister's door the next day... She screamed so loud that my niece and brother-in-law came running to see what happened.

All in all, it was a good weekend. I had a long conversation with my aunt and uncle about my misophonia, and finally was able to show them the 20/20 video report about misophonia so they could have a better understanding of what I go through. Going to my sister's house was interesting because they were all very mindful of my discomfort to being licked by their larger black lab, but they could also see that I don't hate dogs because the little Chihuahua-dachshund mix cuddled up next to me on the couch for a long time. I was very comfortable petting her since, as long as I kept my hand away from the front of her face, she didn't lick me. In general though, I noticed that my family would frequently ask me if certain things they were doing throughout my stay triggered my misophonia. Most times I was proactive and was wearing earplugs, so I didn't hear the sounds. Occasionally though, it wasn't something that normally triggered me. It was nice to know that they were trying to be mindful of what things do and don't trigger my misophonia.

The actual traveling back and forth brought my typical trigger exposure experiences; however I did have an interesting thing happen on the second leg of my trip back... I boarded the plane and the cell phone of the person behind me kept making that annoying whistle noise every time he got a message. I asked him if
he could please turn the phone to vibrate because I have a medical condition that makes that whistling sound hurt my ears. He said he needed to make a call home to his son first, but when he ended his call, he asked me more about my medical condition. It turned out that he was a neurologist that specializes in
epilepsy, so when I told him more about my misophonia, he seemed intrigued. He agreed with my sentiment that since my triggers are caused by visual and tactile as much as aural sensations, it seems logical that it could be a neurological condition. I gave him a business card with the information for this website and also wrote the name of the "Sound Rage" book along with the author's name. The neurologist gave me his card too, so I'm hoping I might be able to continue the discussion with him at a later time. Who knows, perhaps he or some of his colleagues may be interested in delving more into misophonia.
0 Comments

Your comment will be posted after it is approved.


Leave a Reply.

    Want to know when a new blog entry is posted, then click the RSS Feed button below to sign up for the "Butterfly's Whisper" update notifications.

    RSS Feed

    Picture

    About the Author

    Emlyn Altman has been suffering with misophonia for over 40 years, even though she only found out about the actual medical condition much more recently. As frustrating as the condition has been over the years, her heightened sensitivities across all the senses considerably influenced her talents within the visual fine arts (particularly sculpture), music (singing, piano, and many other instruments), writing, and culinary backgrounds, as well as professional achievements as an architectural lighting designer. Her goal in developing this website is to promote more awareness about misophonia and help other sufferers as well.


    Archives

    October 2021
    January 2019
    March 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    January 2017
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    December 2013
    November 2013
    October 2013
    September 2013
    August 2013
    July 2013
    June 2013
    May 2013
    April 2013
    March 2013
    February 2013
    January 2013
    December 2012

Copyright © 2021 Emlyn G. Altman