Right now I'm back in Vegas sitting at one of my prior regular coffee place hangouts waiting to meet with a former colleague. I only landed about an hour and a half ago and yet it feels like I never left here. As much as I'm enjoying the northwest, just driving from the airport to the coffee shop made me realize how much I like the environment out here.
The plane ride itself was pretty turbulent (it was the closest I've gotten to becoming air sick in a long time), but for me the worst was just as we were about to land, someone started whistling. I could even hear it through my earplugs and for the life of me, no matter where I looked around me, I couldn't see who was whistling. It was the weirdest thing, and not something I've had to deal with on a plane, but between the rough weather and the whistling trigger, I was not a happy camper as we landed. As we debarked and we
On a happier note, Thursday I joined an acapella singing group - and will be one of the founding members. Everyone was so nice and towards the end of the meeting, we all started to sing random songs and it was wonderful how, despite no one having met each other before, we sounded like we had been practicing together for a while. Very cool.
The group was established through a MeetUp.com activity and what I found to be very interesting is not long after I rsvp'd that I was attending, one of the other members emailed me to say he saw that I was connected to the UK Misophonia MeetUp group and that his daughter may have misophonia. Needless to say, I wasn't expecting a misophonia connection to come out of joining the singing group - but I was hoping that perhaps getting back into the swing of singing might help alleviate the intensity of my misophonia sensitivity.
Unfortunately for me though, this first meeting wound up being a BIG source of triggers. When I arrived, there was only the organizer and one other person. I soon realized that the other person, who I sat next to, was chewing gum AND twirling a pair of earbuds in his fingers over, and over, and OVER! I tried blocking the visual triggers using my hair, but it was hard to feel like I was paying attention to him as he spoke when every time I looked in his direction, I was distracted by his gum chewing and earbud twirling. A few more people came in and when the woman who sat on the other side of me started bouncing her leg, I got up and shifted to the other side of the table. The visual triggers were too much!
As the meeting went on... I experienced more visual triggers, to the point where I actually shifted my chair back to try to use the person next to me as a visual blinder to the trigger. I'm sure I looked weird doing it but I felt I didn't know these people well enough to ask them to stop triggering me. It's funny... The gum chewer/earbud twirler at one point left the room (I thought "Yay. A little break from being triggered," and although he must've put away his earbuds... He started flipping a hard eyeglass case in his fingers over and over... It's like no matter what he had in his hand, he had to fidget with it. AAArrrggghhh!!!
I guess that's one of the things I'm going to have to deal with when being a part of a musical group. Musicians are always tapping their fingers/feet to the beat, whistling, or otherwise doing something rhythmic - even if the music is only in their head. It's going to be tough for me for a while but I'm hoping over time, once I get music back in my life the way it was when I was in school, that my sensitivity to triggers will decrease. (I posted a while ago about a Harvard study where they found there were neurological benefits to community singing - which is what I think I experienced back in my college/grad school days.) Time will certainly tell!